Monday Musings - Treats
If you or someone you know has ever needed to follow a special diet then you can empathize with those of us who have restrictions on our daily food intakes.
Most of us remember what it was like to consume an ice cream cone and feel no ill affects afterwards.
Pizza, Cake, Donuts, Ice Cream.... mmmmm tasty food items for sure but for those of us following specialty diets for health reasons, the items listed above cannot be classified as treats to us if they make us ill.
I've been to Birthday celebrations where people have been "cake pushers". "Oh you can have a little treat, you deserve it." Exasperated by this comment I simply smile and thank them graciously and remove myself from their constant cake pushing behavior. Sometimes I've even had the same person bring me a piece of cake after I've refused telling me that " You know you want some." Indeed I do know that I would love to partake in the cake but it's not in my best interests.
As you all know I'm gluten free, not because I'm celiac (not yet anyway) but because I have multiple auto immune conditions and refraining from gluten keeps those conditions on the back burner. Some completely go into remission and others only have a slight nagging presence.
These so called "treats" will put my health at risk. I'm not asking anyone to understand the science of my decision but you can at least respect it.
There was even a time before I understood completely how gluten affected me when I would treat myself with deep dish pizza from our favorite pizza joint. What an idiot I was! This was no TREAT. The cheese bloated me and gave me cramping you can't imagine and the gluten, well the gluten would keep me in the bathroom for days. Some treat!
I even had myself convinced that I had "deserved" these so called treats. "I've had a bad day at work, I deserve pizza." "I'm traveling and eating gluten free can be hard so I'll grab this pizza slice in the airport and I'll do better when I get home."
Here's what I've learned from my ability to rationalize just about anything:
- As my mother would say "If you got what you deserved you probably wouldn't like it." This phrase has stuck with me thru my entire life. In fact I don't even tell people who have done a lot of hard work on something that they deserve the praise, attention, etc. I tell people that they earned it. "Way to go Mary, all that hard work has really paid off. You really earned that promotion." To me the word deserve implies entitlement,. But the word earned implies effort and fortitude. So for me treats cannot fall into the category of being deserved.
- Anything that makes you sick after consuming it is not a TREAT! Stop kidding yourself and realize that in order to be the best YOU that you may need to do things differently than other people. And that's OK! A true treat for me would be a gluten free chocolate cake with a scoop of coconut ice cream.
So for all you folks who can eat anything and not feel ill afterwards, I admire your stomachs of steel and your fully functioning immune systems. But don't encourage me to make myself sick by eating what you're pushing because sometimes my will power isn't strong enough to resist the temptation. And you don't have to be sorry that you brought cake for someones birthday and I can't have any. Anyone that knows me knows I have a bar of dark chocolate in my purse for just such an occasion. I won't be deprived my friends because this gal is prepared!
Be kind, love often, and live well.